Parents do have the responsibility to look after their children’s welfare. Parenting is about providing care for and bringing up children. The focus of parents is with the child and that its needs be met, the so called PIES. It means the child’s physical, intellectual, emotional and social wellbeing. Parents try to give children a good start into life and they need to fulfil their parenting role with competence which is assumed to come naturally with parenthood. Parenting skills are often associated with parental competence. Education and support in parenting can increase parents’ knowledge, skill and self confidence. Today there are a variety of adults which are not the biological parents involved in parenting. Society is changing and changes in family roles often means that there are more single parents or grandparents involved. Geographical mobility for employment also means that parental responsibilities often are only with parents. This essay will explore what is meant with good and bad parenting and why some families and parents are labelled as bad or problem parents. It will examine how structural, environmental and individual factors can influence parenting and therefore why parents might need help. There are different types of services available for parents and the essay will also look into how local services should respond and help with different ways of supporting parents’ individual needs.
There are different styles of parenting which can be found in our society today. White and Woollett (topic 13, p13) have identified three styles of parenting; they are the authoritarian, the permissive and the authoritative. The authoritarian is where parents dictate what children do and can not do and children do have to obey these rules. The permissive is where parents do not offering much control or guidance and are highly indulgence. The authoritative is where parents give their children boundaries and within these boundaries children do develop self reliance and autonomy. These parenting styles can be found in all social, economy and ethnic minority groups in society. Often parents are going through one or more of these parenting styles as children grow up and it can not be said that either style is a good or bad. It is obvious that a violent and abusive parent is a bad parent and it is here the law and social services which are involved to solve the problem. Good parenting as identified from Braun ( reader, p 239-248) are certainly qualities like warm, affectionate, clear limit setting, recognising needs, consistence, respect and recognition of the child’s good qualities.
However good or bad parenting is not easy to define as it depends on the perceptions of the person expressing it. Children for example feel their family is special; they do not see good or bad parenting even when things do not go smooth. Children do want their parents to be there for them, parents are a symbol of security for children (Pugh, topic 2, p74-81). Different cultures, social economic classes and ethnic minorities groups have different views on parenting. Bernades (topic 14, p 44) sees families as key holders of cultural beliefs and the main model for behaviour. Families should not engage into this on their own but should get support to develop human values around parenting. Difficulties can arise as who is setting the norm about parenting in our society. In some cultures there may be issues surrounding breastfeeding or toilet training( topic 13, p11) and these may differ from the views our society do have about these topics. In our society for example to leave children alone at home or let children go out late on their own is something we do not do and see as wrong. There are also different values and beliefs in society about families which are diverse in shape, size and culture. The Beveridge report in the 1940s stated certain roles and relationships within a family. The man was the breadwinner and the woman was looking after...
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